I used to want a matriarchy, but not anymore. I feel what we need is equality, rather than simply trading the places of the oppressors and the victimized for the sake of revenge, which is what I once wanted in my more bitter moments.
Here is what i think is the main problem with the idea of matriarchy: We tend to think that a matriarchal world would probably be a less violent place than todays patriarchal one, with less wars and shit, since women tends to be less violent than men, and perhapes also a more sympathic society, since women tends to be more, well, sympathic. But i believe that the fact that women tends to be less violent and competative than men has a lot to do with the way they are raised to be more submissive than men, which is of course also a big factor in the fact that the patriarchal society where men are on top can survive. If women weren't
raised to be submissive and to want to avoid conflict, our patriarchal society wouldn't be able to remain patriarchal. A matriarchal society would probably have to be one where women are the ones who are (like men in our present society) the ones who are being raised to be competative and aggressive. And if women were raised like men are raised today, they would most likely be just as prone to violent conflicts and antisocial behavior as men are today.
In other words, i believe that a matriarchal society would most likely be just as violent and unsympathic as a patriarchal one, it's just that women would be the ones primarly responsible for antisocial acts just as men are the ones primarly responsible for such acts in todays society. Granted, the fact that women aren't as pshysically strong as men would undoubtebly be a factor that prevented a complete role-reversal from todays society (like, even if there were as many women who were as keen on beating their husbands as there are men who beats their wives today, female-on-male abuse would probably never be as big a problem as male-on-female abuse is today due to men being more able to defend themselves against the opposite sex). But of course, being outright physically abuse is hardly the only way to express aggression, dominate others or act antisocialy.
Basically, which gender sits on top of the food chain doesn't have much to do with which gender has which genetalia. It has to do with which gender is raised in a way that gives them a drive to try to "climb the latter" and dominate others, and which gender is raised to be sympathic and to avoid conflict. A matriarchal society would probably be one where women are the former. It woudln't be a calm, sympathic society where what we today percieve as "feminine" traits rule, because women wouldn't have much of those feminine traits. If anything, men would be likely to be the ones who have those traits, and men would be the underdogs who are being dominated and marginalized.
In short, a matriarchal society would suck just as much as our present patriarchal society. Or at least, that's what i believe would probably
be the case. But i suppose it is also possible to imagine a society where women are the ones in charge yet do not remain in charge through the same means that men use to remain in charge today, but through some other means entirely, perhapes even through some kind of means that do not
require women to become an aggressive and dominating group. But what means that would be though, i really couldn't say...